Toni Patillo – Santa Monica and Palisades Real Estate Agent


Find the Best, Fire the Rest: A Path To Your Perfect Coach

Perhaps you’ve noticed the incredible amount of business and life coaches available these days. They sell their services online, through social media, at seminars etc. ad al ad nauseam. After all, I am a business and life coach. It’s why I take this particular topic so seriously. So today let’s talk about how to find the right coach for you.

Don’t get me wrong; a lot of the coaches out there do great work. The challenge is that it’s not just about finding a qualified coach, it’s also crucial to find one that vibes with you on a personal level. This...

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Unburden Your Family, Plan For Long-Term Care Before You Need It

I’ve ben working in the Above 50 market for many years and I love it. I love helping clients through a difficult time of transition and I love training other professionals to do the same. So here’s a bit of clarity I had while I was driving to an appointment yesterday. Without exception, no one wants to be a burden on their family when their health declines. In fact, the stress of not being prepared in advance can actually speed the decline when it begins. I’m serious, I’ve seen it.   That’s why today I want to talk about how to...

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So You’re The Executor of Your Parent’s Estate

First things first, you should know in advance if you are named as the executor of any estate. Sounds obvious doesn’t it? You’d be surprised how little thought is given to something so simple. So, ask your parents whom they are naming. If they haven’t thought about it, initiate the conversation.   Then decide if you want the responsibility.

What does an Executor Do? 

An Executor is legally responsible for protecting the assets of the decedent, or deceased, until the probate process is completed and the assets are disbursed. This is a good news bad news kind of thing. The good...

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How To Avoid The Problems Of Inheriting Wealth

It’s the worst time to talk about finances. You’ve lost a loved one. You’re grieving, you’re consoling other family members and there are arrangements to be made. The last thing you want to deal with is what you may or may not be inheriting. Especially because you know it could lead to conflict if it’s not properly spelled out.

It get’s even worse. Are you inheriting your parent’s house or other properties? Well prepare yourself for things to get incredibly complicated. The fact is Boomers are expected to inherit $8.4 trillion with a large portion being in Read more

8 Reasons All Business Owners Should Hire A Coach

Today I’m speaking to the business owners out there…all business owners. You could be a Financial Planner or Real Estate Agent. You might be an Attorney or Owner of an Eldercare Services business. Regardless of what business you’re in, you all need a coach. I get it, you’re an entrepreneur and like to do your own thing. You’re probably a business owner for two reasons, the unlimited income potential and the fact that you only have to be accountable to yourself. The idea of paying someone that will hold you accountable sounds like a terrible idea. Of course, a Coach...

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When the Elderly Abuse the Caregivers Who Care For Them

Have you ever heard the expression “it’s easier to hurt the ones you love”? Unfortunately, this is a cruel truth. Think about it. At what point did you stop taking your parents for granted? Do you still? Anyway, consider that it’s easy to expect more from those who selflessly give you the most. A lot of people never even realize they’re doing it. So what happens when the elderly take their caregivers for granted? Abuse.

Families First

So you’re taking care of your parents. Are they acting out?   Does it go as far as abuse? Maybe they’re frustrated that...

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Indications That An Elder Loved One Needs Help

Life is busy. Too busy to worry about our elder loved ones. You know how it goes.  You wake up, get the kids fed, dressed and ready for school. Maybe you drop them off at school, maybe they take the bus and you head straight to work.   It’s a long, stressful day. You come home to a loud house, make dinner and/or help with homework get the kids fed, bathed and into bed. God willing, you get an hour to watch your favorite show or snuggle with your honey, before you crash. I’m exhausted just thinking about it.

Who has the...

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Are Dug Prescriptions Killing Your Parents? Eldercare Gone Awry:

When was the last time you went rummaging through your parents medicine cabinet? I know, they like their privacy. Fair enough…until you accidentally get a glimpse of the pharmacy they keep in there. Now the fact that they’re engaged with their own health is a good thing as long as everyone is on the same page. Here’s why?

Side Effects

Medications have side effects. How many times have you watched a drug commercial and thought, “My God, the side effects are worse than...

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Safely Assisting An Aging Loved One Up After A Fall

Let me be clear here. You should only attempt to help an aging adult up if they have NOT been injured.   In the event they have been hurt, call 911 immediately. That being said, let’s assume they have NOT been injured, to all my loving caregivers I say BEWARE. In this challenging situation you must take care that they, or you, are not injured during the process of helping them to their feet.

Below are some general guidelines that can help keep both you and your loved one safe and injury free.

Steps for Helping An Aging Loved One After A...

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Are Your Aging Parents Keeping Secrets?

That doesn’t sound so bad, right? I mean your aging parents have certainly earned their privacy. Why not let them keep a few harmless secrets?   Well what if it’s a secret regarding their health or how they’re being treated? You could be operating under a completely false assumption that everything’s fine. Maybe you won’t uncover the truth until the real damage has already been done.

Sometimes an aging family member will feel their independence slipping away. Maybe they fear their loved ones reaction. Perhaps they’re just embarrassed. You won’t know the answer until you sit down and have a frank discussion.


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