Toni Patillo – Santa Monica and Palisades Real Estate Agent

Category Archives: Above 50 market

A Happy and Healthy Lifestyle as an Aging Adult

In our busy hustle and bustle lifestyle of today there is a tendency toward thinking that life is short and in a sense it is. This doesn’t mean however, that you don’t need to prepare for how you want to live as an aging adult. Think about it. The average lifespan is between 78 and 80 years old. It’s very possible that we will have 15 years of time to fill in retirement and yet, so many of us put off decisions that should be made about how we want to spend our extra time on earth. Do you want...

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Managing An Aging Adults Investments

I truly understand the financial challenges facing aging adults. After all, it wasn’t that long ago that the housing bubble burst and the whole economy went down with it. I remember watching friends and family losing their houses, their portfolios and their hopes for retirement. I even remember friends coming out of retirement and getting back into the workforce because they had no choice. For these reasons among many others, today I want to talk about a few effective ways you can help manage an aging loved ones investments so that they might feel secure.

Income First

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How To Downsize A Home: A Caregiver’s Guide

Does anybody love moving? I’d be very surprised if anyone answered yes. It’s stressful, time consuming, expensive…some might even say overwhelming. Now I want you to imagine your parents having to, not only move, but also downsize from the big 4-bedroom house where you grew up to a 2-bedroom condo.   Perhaps you mom or dad is moving to an assisted living community or maybe a room in your house. This is not an average move. Sorting through decades of family history and possessions can be paralyzing.

We can look at this situation many different ways. On the positive side, a move...

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Memory Care For Aging Adults: Recognize the Signs

There is a moment when you first wonder if a parent, or yourself for that matter, is suffering from some type of memory loss. Let me tell you it’s terrifying. You sit around and worry that it could be Alzheimer’s. In the medical field they call it cognitive impairment, but I’m not sure that does it justice. Dementia is a brutal condition for family members of the afflicted to witness.   It is progressive and insidious. A loved ones faculties are slowly ripped away until he or she can no longer function safely without medical care and finally hospitalization.

The good news...

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Steps You Can Take To Prevent An Aging Loved One From A Fall – Part 2

Welcome back for part 2 and thank you for sticking with me. If you didn’t read the part 1 of this series, I do recommend you take a look at the information there at some point. Today we’re going to talk about ways to actively reduce the chance of a fall.

Reducing the Risk

  • Get a check-up – Frequent check-ups will do more to prevent a fall than anything. If you are alerted to a potential risk, you will be much more able to avoid the fall.   Generally a doctor will assess your overall health, but make sure your doctors...
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Steps You Can Take To Prevent An Aging Loved One From Falls – Part 1

Did you know that falls are the single largest cause of death and injuries in older adults? Falls are the most common cause of traumatic brain, hip, shoulder, ankle and arm injury in the elderly. Believe me, I know about traumatic injury and it’s no fun. I’ve personally gone through the pain of back surgery and recovery. The older I get the more dramatic the pain. Luckily, I consider my health to be a #1 priority, so I take care of myself and have excellent physicians looking after me. This is frequently not the case with aging adults and so...

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Why We All Should Want An Advanced Directive

Ughhh, I get it. Who wants to talk about advanced directives? The answer is nobody, which is exactly why I want to talk with you about it today.   So many of us avoid the conversation completely. If the legal documents are for you, then you’re stuck thinking about your own mortality, if they’re for your parents, then you have to think about losing mom and dad. I’m honestly not sure which is worse. Here’s why it’s so important to have an advanced directive and the steps you can take to make the process a little easier.

Questions To Answer

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Checklist: Questions You Should Ask An Assisted Living Community

We’ve all heard the nightmare stories. You pay money to put your parent into an assisted living community. You think you are doing the best that you can for mom or dad. Then there is neglect. One day you show up and the sheets are dirty, mom hasn’t taken her medication or dad hasn’t bathed in days.   You scream bloody murder at the attendees, but it lands on deaf ears. This is elder abuse and worse you’re paying for it.

It would be so much better if there were a checklist of questions you could ask to help you choose the...

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Let’s Exercise: Safe and Simple Exercises For Mom and Dad

I’ve watched people in my life get lazy, get unhealthy, get sick and pass on. There are no words to describe the frustration. You want to scream at your loved one “take care of yourself!” but there’s nothing you can do.  The challenge is that once someone gets to a certain age and/or lack of mobility, it feels impossible to start an exercise fitness program. Well, it’s not.

Here are some tips that can help an aging loved one feel more secure and optimistic as they take on the world of health and wellness.

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Unburden Your Family, Plan For Long-Term Care Before You Need It

I’ve ben working in the Above 50 market for many years and I love it. I love helping clients through a difficult time of transition and I love training other professionals to do the same. So here’s a bit of clarity I had while I was driving to an appointment yesterday. Without exception, no one wants to be a burden on their family when their health declines. In fact, the stress of not being prepared in advance can actually speed the decline when it begins. I’m serious, I’ve seen it.   That’s why today I want to talk about how to...

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